Change is going to occur in your life and you must learn how to handle it.
I am not just talking about the type of change that is experienced on a small spectrum either.
I am talking about a strong shift of change that comes from; being let go from a job you relied on, having to relocate from one city to another with a family, divorce, or substantial financial difficulties.
Life will switch things up on you, if you are not 100% dialed in and in control.
Everything that happens to you within your life, is your fault.
It’s a tough pill to swallow, but it is 99.99% true.
There is always something that you did or didn’t do, that caused you to be where you are at mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally.
It’s up to you whether you want to accept accountability for it or not.
Here Are 6 Tips To Keep You Going Regardless Of How Much Is Changing Around You:
1. You Must Accept Accountability For Where You Currently Are
When you reach the point within your life where change is happening and it is happening at a very hardcore pace, you must gain control.
The only way to gain control is to accept accountability for where you currently are in life.
If you just lost your job, reflect on what exactly got you there— what happened exactly?
Ask yourself deep questions.
What caused you to lose your job? What could you have done differently looking back?
Maybe you are relocating to a new city and you have your family onboard that train of change.
Lots of new fears and demons are developed here.
Change is always a new level.
With new levels, comes new devils. You must be willing to take accountability for this.
Hindsight is always 20/20 they say. This is how we connect the dots and move forward. You gotta be able to look back and ask yourself difficult questions, you gotta be able to stare demons in the face. You cannot run from this.
Once you have reflected on yourself and you have dissected your situation, then, and only then, can you obtain the tools to properly move forward. A lot of people want to skip this piece because it is too painful to delve into.
Embrace the suck and just do it. Your future self will thank you.
2. Go Back To The Drawing Board And Create A Plan
Change has now caused a complete shift in your life. Whatever change that is, however small or grand the change occurring is, you are now shifted off course.
Change will rock you off of your balance.
The key is to get yourself recalibrated and re-engaged on the correct path.
This is not an easy thing to overcome. Sitting here and just writing about it has very little emphasis on just how hard it can be for someone to deal with divorce, being fired from a job, relocating to a new city or state, starting a new job with zero experience, starting a new school—the list goes on.
In order to get your mind focused and 100% back in control, you must go back to the drawing board and start fresh.
Erase the board, and let your brain and spirit know that you are starting over and you are starting from the starting line—not 20% of the way in.
This requires humility.
Kick yourself back to the bottom of the ladder and hold onto those railings.
Get into starting position. Put one foot on the first step of your ladder, because your climb hasn’t even begun yet.
Create a plan. Put pen to paper. Take ideas and create something tangible.
Use the power of journaling to sink deep into your mind and spirit and pull that vision that was given to you by the power above.
Decide what it is exactly that you plan on doing to keep yourself aligned and what practices you plan on implementing daily to drive results.
3. Organize Yourself And Your Environment
Organization within your daily structure, cannot be emphasized enough.
That whole thing where you go throughout your day with a mess going on around you is just not going to cut it, especially, during strong shifts of change within life.
It just can’t happen.
Back to accountability—”everything is your fault.”
If you don’t have the discipline to keep your environment and yourself organized, then you are going to struggle during a pivotal moment in your life.
The militant organization of your belongings and your space is vital during change.
You want to have your room in order, your overall home in order, your office in order, your car in order and most importantly yourself and your appearance in order.
Being sloppy is just a non-negotiable at this point.
If you are this person, get yourself to work.
Get this fixed first. Because in an event where you are experiencing change, you must be the best version of yourself if you want to bounce back or progress.
Again, I cannot emphasize this enough.
Change requires a higher version of yourself. If you are not willing to accept that challenge, then just prepare to get your teeth kicked in by life.
Life stops for no human on this planet.
Time and life are undefeated. You must be willing to dig deep and get better in all areas of character.
4. Build A Structured Routine That Breeds Progress
Once you have gotten your organization in order, you are now ready to build a structured routine for yourself.
You may have had a routine in place before change occurred, and that routine may have been working wonders for you.
But, guess what? Due to change, that old routine is now not relatable and you must make adjustments to your routine.
You must recalibrate yourself and your day.
You do this buy creating and implementing a rigged structured system that has purpose.
- What time are you going to wake up?
- What workouts or body movements are you going to complete each day, and for how long?
- What foods are you nourishing your body with, and how much water are you going to intake?
- What time is your work going to begin and end?
- What practice do you have in place that will help you transition from business work to home work?
- What practices do you have in place to clean, pick-up, organize your space and your environments?
- What time do you have dedicated and blocked off for learning?
- What time do you spend with your friends and family?
- What time do you have allocated for prayer and strengthening your relationship with God?
- What time is your sleep scheduled for?
These are just a few ideas to get you started.
The idea is to implement a routine that will slowly build a stronger, better version of yourself, over time.
The key to this yielding actual result, will all be dependent on your level of organization, self-discipline, and consistency.
5. Build A Non-Negotiable Mindset
I grew up with a mindset that some things that I should have been getting done, were simply an option.
If you want to stay on a hedonic treadmill your whole life, just spinning wheels and never getting the results you know you deserve, then stick to believing that some things like: eating healthy, exercising daily, studying and learning daily, getting adequate sleep, praying daily—are optional.
If I could give myself a solid golden nugget of wisdom to my younger self 10 years ago, I’d let my younger self know that these daily actions are not negotiable. You must get these things done each and every day.
You don’t get to wake up and say, “Should I workout today?”
You don’t get to wake up and say, “Am I going to work today?”
You don’t get to wake up and say “Will I eat healthy today?”
You don’t get to wake up and say, “Will I clean up my room or my home today?”
You don’t get to wake up and say, “Will I pray today?”
You don’t get to wake up and say, “Will I pick up a book or learn something new today?”
These actions are all non-negotiable.
Will you have days where you slack? Sure. They will happen. But, the challenge is to minimize those days as much as possible.
If we condition ourselves to have the option to skip the things that are important to us, then we are belittling our self-esteem, our self-worth, our self-respect.
Confidence is built DAILY.
You cannot become the highest version of yourself if you are allowing non-negotiable activities to become options.
Last on the list, but surely most important is prayer.
There is absolutely no way that humans are so incredible, yet there is no higher power. Something greater that created us.
There is just no way.
Life is too beautiful and too complex for us not to have a belief in God.
Daily prayer is essential during times of challenge and during times of change.
Change can be so overwhelming for anyone who does not have the faith to lean on something greater than self.
Each day, set aside time to pray.
Set time aside to wake up each day and give thanks for another breathing opportunity, where you have the ability to improve yourself, those around you and your future.
Pray for those who are suffering.
Pray for those who are lost.
Pray for the challenges that you have in front of you, for God is gifting you with something that is going to shape you into the person that is required in order to obtain those future gifts.
Do not lose hope, but pray.