If you want to help yourself, you first need to be open to accepting help
A lot of people do not want to admit that they need help. We try to pretend that we are in a good place, when we are not. In our home, we believe in help. My husband and I have gone through a lot in our lives. A lot of the experiences that we have faced, we believe to be extremely valuable. We often ask ourselves, why aren’t more people talking about these things within family. Why are we not growing up with more of these types of approaches and leadership within our own homes?
There are a lot of different factors that cause this, but that’s not what this is about. What is important, is that if we want to change the world, we need to start in our very own homes. Teaching to believe in help can hold power.
How do we do that? We believe, by open our hearts and our minds to accepting help that will assist us in reaching our true potential in life. That help can be family, friends, professionals, books, mentors, coaches, anything really. As long as the help moves you towards happiness and health.
It starts at home.
If you are a single parent reading this, you are a – BOSS! My heart goes out to you because in raising 3 kids, I cannot imagine being able to go through this without my spouse. The fact that there are women and men out there raising kids on their own, is something that is just incredibly admirable. It is something that does not receive enough credit.
Leadership in the home is something that is extremely important. Kids absorb not just what the parents say, they absorb more of what they see us do. It is imperative that you stay focused on the fact that your family is watching you, and it is important that you get better in order to properly show them the things that they should value in their lives. The only way to begin to do this and sustain it over time, is to believe in help.
Believe in Help
A lot of what we have learned in our lives today, is absorbed through the help of other people. For me, reading has been my source. Before you can make any type of progress, I truly believe that you need to allow for the mind to be open to learning, changing, and growing. Sometimes, our children want to do everything on their own. They can see help as being weak. As parents, our focus on correcting this stigma and explaining to them that working as a team and believing in help gives them strength.
When we struggle in life, it’s important to always remind ourselves that there are options out there to find solutions. It is up to you, how you choose to react to the situations that you are faced with. If you learn to believe in help, you will open your world to new opportunities that can really change your life. But first, you have must believe.
Read More Books
I was working at the bank one day, and I had a Tony Robbins “Money Master the Game” book on my desk, that I had left out after returning from my lunch break. It was just a book that I was reading at the time, to learn something new in the financial realm. I called over a client that was waiting for me in the lobby and brought her over to my office. As she walks in, she noticed my book and just blurted out, “all of that self-help stuff is crap.” I smirked because she caught me off guard. I said really? Why do you say that? I was genuinely curious. She goes on to talk about how it is a way to steal your money. It is just “basic information” and she continued on how it’s all common sense.
I like to listen to people’s opinion on certain things. I truly try not to judge, but rather listen and analyze. It is how I learn. If I get caught up on a rebuttal or just something to say, I find that I miss out on the learning experience. It’s just how my brain works.
After she was done talking, I thought about it. My response to her was – There is always a little golden nugget you can walk away with. It’s up to you, whether you can believe in opening your mind towards help, towards growth. If you believe in getting better, then you can really never get enough “basic information.” You could listen, watch, and read something twenty times and on the twenty-first time it clicks. She disagreed, and we went about our business meeting.
People can say some really negative, discouraging things sometimes. Actually quite frequently. Don’t waiver in your approach towards progression. Just allow for the information to flow and keep moving forward.
Side note: if you want to learn “basic information” check that book out. 😉
Be Kind
2020 has brought about a lot of change within a short period of time and people don’t know how to react and adapt properly. This creates panic in many different subject matters and events. The issues that are taking place in the world today are not because of anything other than a human issue. As humans, we need to learn to be more kind and respectful to one another. The more that we can increase our awareness of gratitude and kindness, the better the energy that is expelled and absorbed becomes. This energy, spreads quickly and can really impact the souls of those around you. I believe as people, we need to slow down our judgements and be more kind towards those around us.
Learn New Skills
Sometimes, in order for us to feel progression, we must learn new things. My husband and I always try to teach the girls that they need to always seek learning. You can never know too much. The intention is not to be “smart”. The intention is to always seek growth. Learning new skills, allows for us to pass on new information or valuable skills onto not just our children, but onto the world. In our home, this translates into help. Like my husband says, “there are a lot of hurting people out there that could use help”. It is important to learn new things so that we can continue to serve others.
Separate from Toxic Relationships and or Environments
In life, we can find ourselves in situations that hinder our growth. We may be in a relationship or in environments that are sucking the energy out of our lives. In my opinion, this is something that shouldn’t be happening. We do this by hanging in one place too long. This creates more of a down side than upside. If you are reading this and you feel that there is some truth to this in your own personal life, then seek to find a solution. It doesn’t matter how deep in you are, or how much you think you may need it. Try your best to get out of it and make a change towards something that is going to give you energy and life. Not something that takes it away.
Always Believe in Yourself
There will be times where nobody can connect with you on something and they just don’t believe in it. You must learn to always believe in yourself. I have found dealing with these times can be difficult. Not everybody is going to understand why you are doing something, or what it is that you envision. I have found that throughout these moments, you must learn to stay steadfast and believe in yourself. Continue to go after what you want, even if it results in a “failure”. If it means something to you, believe enough within yourself to go after it.
My husband and I got together and we started talking about creating a more focused mindset as to how we want to move forward with this blog. A lot of what we share, are experiences that we have gathered and turned into principles we live by. These are experiences that we have taken away from life and we strongly believe should be shared.
It will also be pretty cool for the girls to find our site one day and refer back to it after we are gone. Our intention is for them to take this information and just believe in help.
