Nobody is coming to save you.
2020 has been a year of change, adversity, and discovery. We have witnessed what a pandemic looks like first hand. We have seen the difficulty that can arise when these changes take place and how it affects people. Some of these changes come with ease, while other changes can put you on a completely different trajectory.
Beginning a new year is what a lot of people are waiting for.
A new year, a new opportunity.
While a new year can be a positive outlook for many, nothing is going to change if we don’t apply ourselves.
I believe it is important to understand that the biggest obstacles we face in life are often times within our own selves. Which is why, I believe coming to terms with the fact that nobody is going to save you is important.
No matter what your current situation is right now, you are the only one who can pull yourself out and bring yourself to where you want to be. Nobody is going to do it for you. And, most importantly, nobody is coming to save you.
Believe in Yourself
People need to believe in themselves before they can accomplish anything. Real change comes from within ourselves. Nobody is going to save you, nobody is going to change you. We change ourselves, and we can make those changes towards the good or the bad. Changing towards the good requires belief in one self.
To make real lasting change we must reflect inwards. If it is done any other way it will not last. You first have to believe that whatever changes you want to make within your own life, you can achieve. This is not always easy. I believe that it can be challenging if not looked at properly.
In order to find the belief within yourself, you must do. What I mean by that, is that you need to start somewhere. If you don’t start something then you don’t have anything to work with.
By actually starting, you can then use each day as an opportunity to create that belief within yourself by proving to yourself that you can do what is required when it is required. Starting something you want, you are demonstrating a high self-respect for yourself. This alone, over time, will build the self-belief that is required to get what you deserve.
Define what it is that you want with pin point accuracy. You must know where you want to go in order to get there. Take time to sit alone, or with your partner and discuss where you want to take your life or lives.
Use that time to really get down to the exact points that you want to hit on your journey of life. Once you have that defined, now you can progressively move towards it by taking immediate action.
Anytime that you want to do something, whether that is for yourself or for others, first define it. I find that once this piece is covered, it makes it much easier to move forward.
Set Goals For Yourself
Everyone should have a list of goals. I don’t mean some list that you have buried in your head somewhere and you recall on it when someone asks you what it is that you are working towards or want out of your life.
I mean have an actual list of goals that you want to accomplish for yourself and for others.
By having an actual list that we can see each day, we can gain a different perspective on what is written down. Read the list to yourself daily, remind yourself of what you committed to and make any necessary changes to that list when you have time to reflect.
Create A Daily List Of Things To Do
This is separate from your list of goals. I have have found much success when I create a list of things that I want to get done and actually use that list, in comparison to when I don’t.
It’s almost like once it gets down on that list, it becomes an assignment that needs to get done. It goes from an idea or thought, to now written on a list that is utilized to get things done. So, now it becomes serious business.
If you can create one of these for yourself and actually use it daily, you too will quickly realize the power and efficiency of creating a daily list of things to do.
Write Things Down
If you are still with me after the previous two headers, then you catch my drift. There is true power in writing things down.
You can’t tell me that you have never had something floating in your head forever, but it never became a reality because you never wrote it down in order to start it.
We all have great genius thoughts and ideas, but if we cannot capture them properly, they just stay floating in our minds somewhere and never come to life.
Write things down! 😃
I have a full blog post on The Power of Journaling and other similar topics on journaling such as Journaling First Thing In The Morning. If you haven’t checked those out, please do. Journaling is something that I truly believe if people practiced it more often could be so much better off mentally and emotionally.
Journaling helps you to clear your mind, create focus and perspective and really over come difficult moments in time. If you are looking for an edge or just would like to experiment with something that has tremendous return on investment, get yourself to journal first thing every morning. It will change your life.
People often ask, well what do you journal about? — Anything! If you want to use journaling to reflect on the previous day, or set out a plan for your day, or reflect on where you are in that very moment in time, or you want to just write all the things that you are grateful for in your life. You decide.
Taking time to journal first thing in the morning about all of the wonderful things that you are grateful for in your life is very empowering and a great way to start a positive day.
Often times, I find that we take for granted so many things, and I have found that it is because we don’t reflect and give thanks often enough. Journaling can provide those moments for you. It’s just a great tool to connect with your soul.
There is connecting with your soul and there is connecting with your body. Exercise is an absolute necessity for every human being on earth. I find that too often people relate exercise with being in a gym around strangers and working out for an hour doing movements that are difficult.
Now, while some of that is true, exercise should not be something you fray away from. You should actually be gravitating towards it, you should want to do it. If you don’t feel that way, then you need to go back to the drawing board and reasses how you view exercise.
The human body is designed to move. I truly believe that if you are not exercising and pushing your physical limits from time to time, you are not connected to your body. You may be physically in one piece, but your mind and body are out of touch. This can create many imbalances in your life.
If you are truly looking to better yourself, then consistent daily exercise is something you need to be committed to. Forget about all the commercial advertising about what exercise is and focus on the mind body connection that can form, if you give it the proper time and dedication.
Have fun with exercise. Get outside 🌞 , go for a swim, 🏊♀️, ride a bike 🚴, go roller-skating, walk with your dog 🐕.
Find anything that gets you up and moving and that which you can enjoy. That’s it. Very simple.
If going outside ☀️ and walking your dog around the block for 30-45 minutes is your thing, then do just that daily and consistently. Over time, as you find yourself in better shape, you will naturally begin to fall in love with exercise and you will push yourself.
But first, just start and start slow. You have the rest of your life to improve.
Religion & Spirituality
We each have our own spiritual beliefs and while that can vary greatly from person to person, I do find it to be an important aspect of ones life and should be cultivated and nurtured daily.
Whatever your personal beliefs are, make sure to feed your soul and your spirit the nutrition it needs in order to grow.
We cannot just focus in life on feeding our bodies and our minds. Our soul and our spirit needs nutrition as well. If we neglect this aspect of our lives, I believe we are doing ourselves more damage than good.
Always find time to reflect and provide your soul what it needs in order to continue to grow along with your strong body and strong mind. The soul is the source of all our powers — don’t neglect it.
Hold Yourself Accountable
This one should probably be on the top, but what good would that serve. The gold is always found towards the end. If you stuck with me this far, then you deserve the nuggets.
Nothing worth having is easy to obtain. The way that we achieve what we set our hearts and minds to is by creating action. But, we won’t get to that action piece if we don’t learn that we must hold ourselves accountable.
Nobody is coming to save you, you must do it all yourself.
You owe it to yourself, to make sure that what you speak of, gets walked into action. Nobody is going to hold you accountable for anything that you want or need. You must do it for yourself.
Find ways to write things down, pin them up in places that you will see them daily, and you make sure that those things get done because you owe it to yourself.
You must love yourself first, in order to hold yourself accountable. You must believe in yourself and have the confidence to know that whatever you put in front of yourself must get accomplished because you owe that to yourself.
Get Right Back On Course
Last but not least, is to learn to get right back on course. Things are never going to go perfect or just as planned. If you have that notion in your head, then I would advise you remove it, because you will be disappointed the first few times life punches you in the mouth.
No matter what you set out for yourself, it is not going to be this straight organized process. The journey will sometimes send you spinning. You must learn how to gather yourself and get right back on course. I saved this one for last because all of the other points encompasses this last one.
If you apply yourself and use these tips, you will find it easier to get right back on course. Even when it feels like it is impossible, you dig deep, find the strength and get back to finishing what you started.